by Milla — she=he
Some years ago I did a workshop where we discussed gender in separate male/female groups. This is one of three texts written about this. This is from a person participating in the female group.
NOTE: “In one or two of them, some words are missing because i couldn’t read them on the paper version.”
I’m glad to have the possibility to write down these words knowing that they won’t face walls but interest. At least I hope so. At the same time, the fact that I’m glad shows the weakness of left structures: that it is not normal to have a place for discussions about sexism and hierarchies autonomous free spaces.
Thus is is even more necessary to make this possible here – at the PGA-conference.
The first step to achieve this has been the anti-sexism workshop this morning.
At the beginning, we started to share personal feelings and experiences which was very interesting and inspiring. After that, we divided the group into two “gender groups” which discussed about personal experience with (anti-) sexism.
During collecting the results with the whole group, the “men” turned out to have had a much more emotional and personal approach during that discussion while we discussed the topic more theoretically. At least, that’s the way I see it.
For me it’s a clear sign that those discussions should be had by men-only groups as well because they seem to make possi’ a new point of view on to the own role possible and might help to deconstruct it.
-> What a surprise! While writing about sexism I’m writing about men! This fact also influenced the gathering of the women-only group: we talked a lot about the role of men in the struggle, nearly more than about our own structures. Unfortunately, there doesn’t seem to be a way to avoid this since if you want to abolish a form of opression, both parties of the opressive structure have to work on it. => Anti-sexism is not only a women’s topic!
Besides all the interesting and emotional impressions, I still can’t get rid of my impatience.
Although emotions are important, I don’t want the issue to be reduced to just talk about feelings because I have been doing this for years.
I’m really interested in establishing connections with other anti-sexist groups or individuals to support each other in our everyday struggles which we have to fight in order to fight against everything that prevents people from having a good life.
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