Posted on Daniel’s facebook wall today:
Hmm. I had a talk with (a) yesterday. A poly who starts a relation without saying that they’re poly..? Is not very poly to me. Sounds more like heterosexual monogamic patterns to me… Not very radical, or breaking with societal norms. (Confuse and destroy – is that the method you use?)And she was also saying that you don’t understand the violence you use. If you are cool you should talk this text through with her, before you mess anymore with her mind. http://184.108.40.206/search?q=cache:by24lIoIaasJ:www.stop-ferfieroszak.hu/files/kiadvanyok/Everyday_Male_Chauvinism_web.pdf+everyday+male+chauvinism&cd=1&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=us&client=firefox-a
*That* would be love. Not making empty promises about being the “only one” and that way create competition between loves. Creating the illusion of being “special”. Make her feel special by being honest with her. (It’s really scary that you don’t recognize your own abusive and violent behavior).