What? (talking with a guy with a bad habit of dominating women)

by Cunt Incognita, FOTZE in Berlin — she=he This blog post is a continuation of THIS I feel sick. Lonely. I get response in private confirming that things are not right with the men’s group in Budapest. But no public support or any form of knowing how to talk with these guys. Daniel is taking [...]

System Change – Toward Transformative Justice

Berlin, Germany Hello, Spring is here and it’s a great time to do some learning and growing together. We are some persons who would like to get deeper into a text called  “Toward Transformative Justice”. Learning about Transformative Justice is learning how to form groups, and how to do something structured in response to the [...]

Anti-Sexist Therapy (Pull the laundry out in the open)

by Cunt Incognita, FOTZE in Berlin — she=he I’m slowly responding to the cluelessness expressed by the men in this group: http://www.stop-ferfieroszak.hu/en Once again: Lots of pretty words — and very contradictory practice. In other words: We’re all human.. My response will be sent to the group when I’m finished. Dunno when that will be. [...]

FAQ #1 How do we address violence within our communities?

by Cunt Incognita, FOTZE in Berlin — she=he I participated in two workshops at FAQ Infoladen (infoshop) in Berlin, February this year. The first was on Perpetration of sexual assault, the second on Community accountability. There was plenty of material presented and questions raised on these two occasions. I will give a comprised, neglectful-selective-subjective, brilliant-in-its-own-way, [...]

Anti-Sexist Therapy (#8 Say hi to Pif!)

by Cunt Incognita, FOTZE in Berlin — she=he I don’t know. Things are the usual majorly energy-drainingly fucked up, and I’m wondering what the hell to do – how to move – how to think, in order to be free. Communication is Blaah. And every so often I get dysfunctional. Like now: Saying HI TO [...]

Contact Improvisation Dance – Open letter

by Cunt Incognita, VITTU in Tampere, Finland — she=he This is an open letter I wrote, after feeling angry, disappointed, uncomfortable and frustrated at the regular Sunday session of “Contact-Impro” taking place at the Cable Factory in Helsinki. . . . Contact Improvisation Dance is liberating, creative and fun. It’s exploring movement, balance, weight, physical [...]

Anti-Sexist Therapy (#7 … )

by Cunt Incognita, VITTU in Finland — she=he To see the previous blog post on this matter, click here. I keep on asking questions, even though I’m fairly cynical and worn out by now. I feel bitter about the past and present. I feel bitter about a love so abused. This guy calls me borderline [...]

Anti-Sexist Therapy (#6 Ask why)

by Cunt Incognita, VITTU in Finland — she=he This is a continuation of >> THIS. I would like to know how many people believe in Daniel’s anti-sexism. I would like to know how that anti-sexism manifests itself in the real world. I would like to know why this guy calls herself anti-sexist. Why? Why not? [...]

Anti-Sexist Therapy (#5 Poke a sexist guy)

by Cunt Incognita, VITTU in Finland — she=he This is a continuation of this >> blog post. There are rumors about accountability and support from Daniel and the anti-sexist men’s group. Yet to be made real. So, I poke Daniel to feel better: And ask the guy what’s up: I would like for her to [...]

What I want

by Cunt Incognita, VITTU in Finland — she=he This is a continuation of this blog post Negotiations with a sexist man Daniel says that we agree on something, but is not being specific with what that thing is. I don’t think the guy has a clue of what I really want and need. I need [...]