Pissing match (Nikki Craft, Angie Manzano, Karla Mantilla)

by Milla [she=he]

[from http://www.urbandictionary.com pissing match: An argument or contest of wills, often mean-spirited and over trivial or insignificant matters. From the alcohol-induced sport of urinating for distance.

This is the story of radical feminists, and how we fight White Supremacy and Patriarchy. This is the story of myself, Nikki Craft, Angie Manzano and Karla Mantilla. This is an open letter from myself to Nikki, Angie & Karla.

Hello Nikki —–

Nikki Craft making a statement.

I would like to know why you have posted that I’m a known racist on one of your internet pages. Since I share with you the importance of breaking with all the internalized societal madness (oppressive thinking & behaviors) that we reproduce in our daily interactions (words & doings), I figured that you could explain to me why you would make a statement like that about me. Please help me detect (define) the behavior you find harmful, in order for me to do the necessary changes to become a more loving caring human being.

Nikki Craft saying that I'm a known racist. And I would therefor like for her to define the behavior that she would like for me to correct in order to become less harmful in my way of relating with others.

Hello Angie —–

Angie Manzano at work in the 'off our backs' office.

I would like to know why you side with and would like to support Stacy in her pursuit to stop myself, a radical feminist (“rabid man-haters”, according to Stacy), from confronting a man on abusive behaviors in intimate relations. I would like to know why there is no sensitivity (solidarity) with myself in this case, a woman trying to fight and Survive patriarchal madness (oppression).

Angie positioning herself, and my response to her:

Angie’s reply:

THIS IS THE FIRST PART OF THE FILMED CONVERSATION I HAD WITH STACY

Hello Karla —–

Karla Mantilla demanding accountability for raping a man, in response to a call for community.

I would like to know, why you as a radical feminist, have chosen to respond to a letter I sent on the topic “How do we as a community deal with injustice and oppression within?” with the following comment:

And when I responded to you, asking in what way you would wish for me to be accountable to you, and as well asked if this (demand for) accountability goes both ways (me wanting to know how the radical news journal – off our backs – deal with internal discussions and conflicts regarding societal power relations within the collective) — the answer was: Silence. I would like to know why you demand for me to be accountable for raping a man, and choose to respond with silence when I ask for mutuality.

To end the letter, and this “pissing match”. Nikki, Angie, Karla – I feel in no way ready to meet your response in any private sphere. I’m tired of the mean, sarcastic way of speaking. I’m personally more than ready and willing to drop the underlying sarcasm and say: I’ve found your way of communication severely abusive, disrespectful, authoritarian and anti-feminist. I wish I would have the “status” to get you to respond to my questions with sincerity and without defensive aggression. I wish for you to stop projecting an enemy image on my person, and start treating me as an equal. I have some real concerns in relation to your behaviors and the effect these behaviors have on the community, and the individuals! within this community, that we’re supposedly taking part of. I have some real concerns in relation to how we as a (so called) feminist (so called) movement clearly can’t deal with internal conflicts, injustice and oppression within without severe emotional, psychological harm done.

I would like to talk this through with you. I don’t know how. Cause I personally wouldn’t feel safe speaking with you in a closed space, at least not without support, and at the moment I couldn’t think of who that support would be.

I will send this as an email to the three of you. As well as to the email address of the off our backs collective. If you respond to me in a private sphere – I might repost what you say here on this blog.

If you have any smart solutions for how to bring safe communication about. Please. Let it be known. (I’m completely clueless myself – And how I wish I had the answer)

Mika – Relax:

Mika – Why don’t you like me?

[the ‘Lolita’ thing in this video bugs the hell out of me. the guy singing a lyric like ‘do i attract you?’, ‘am i too flirty?’ and ‘why don’t you like me without’ — “making me” — try?’ with the girl in a yellow-green(?) dress sitting on the piano, being the only visible ‘audience’ for the song. and at the same time the ‘lolita’ look is heavily contrasted with the shots of the two girls standing and dancing and taking space together, one of the girls having the ‘classic’ pornofied school uniform on in a “normal” “unsexy” way, bringing any Britney Spears exploited ‘Hit me baby one more time’ school girl lolita music video back to reality.]

RESPONSES:
I am very curious of the racism Nikki sees in a white person pointing out that there is ignorance of white privilege going on in a white only space. To see her response to my question click on the quote where she’s referring to a chat she and I had in 2006 >>

“Yet Milla maintains that we were talking in a “white person’s club” with a total lack of sisterhood. Milla is known to be a white racist who has been totally ignorant on race.”

2 Responses

  1. […] >> THIS IS THE STORY OF RADICAL FEMINISTS, WHITE SUPREMACY & PATRIARCHY […]

  2. […] More on the off our backs internet drama. Some good reflections on white privilege and feminism there. The whole kerblang might be a good example of narcissistic feminism. […]

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